When Motherhood gets messy

I haven't blogged in a long time! But I am back. Here is something that has been on my heart for a long time.

My baby shower was 4 years ago and I remember it like it was yesterday. I was spending the morning with my best friend to get pampered while my family set up for my big day. I was getting my hair and my nails done and I could not be anymore excited. I remember the nail technician telling me how small my baby bump was even though I had a little less than two months left to go I didn't really know whether to take it as an insult or a compliment. So I thanked her when she told me that I was probably going to have a "small baby" not the first of so many unsolicited comments during pregnancy and motherhood and certainly not the last.

With my freshly manicured nails and my beautiful new mommy do I entered my baby shower with confidence and joy. I was surrounded by friends and family who showered me with so many beautiful baby items for our soon to be little girl. I remember unpacking all of it the next day and neatly folding it and putting it away. As I sat on the floor with my huge belly (It felt huge to me) I was overcome with emotion yes, its the crap load of hormones that are occupying your body while you are with child .. But I just remember how clean and crisp all of the beautiful baby items were; the dozens of blankets, sleepers, burp clothes and bibs we had acquired. It was getting real to me. Somehow that makes it even more real than actually seeing your child on an u/s.

Fast forward almost 4 years , TWO beautiful little girls later and dozens of bins filled with clothes , burp clothes, bibs and onsies. Some are stained some are so worn from washing that it would be easier to throw them in the trash. Baby socks have been without mates for as long as I can remember. Bath towels are tattered and the favorite blanket of my oldest is hardly recognizable when I look at pictures of it and her earlier life. I am reminded that it doesn't take long at all for this beautiful thing called Motherhood to get messy, The truth of the matter is anything beautiful has the tendency to get a little messy. Think of birth , ok for those of you haven't given birth don't think of birth. You see where I am headed with this. Life is kind of messy.

In the four years of me being a mom I am realizing that perfection is the furthest thing from normal that could possibly exist when it comes to raising a family. Your baby will shoot bodily fluids out of places you didn't even know were possible. You will clean up messes, do countless loads of laundry, change your clothes several times a day and wipe every single inch of your precious little pumpkins body several times a day. You will sweep up cheerios, swipe down highchairs, potty seats, shopping carts anything your child comes in contact you will feel compelled to sanitize. It will become second nature and somedays you will even feel like letting these messes go. Somedays you will. I am not just talking about physical messes though. I am talking about the emotionally and spiritual mess you will feel like some days. . I am talking about the times when your normally perfect behaving three year old decides to throw a tantrum right in the middle of Target as you think to yourself "Where did my child go?"
 Can we be honest for a moment? We are humans and young or old we are kind of a mess sometimes. A beautiful mess. Sometimes the best thing we can do is accept our own faults first and also accept the faults of others. No you will not always make the right decisions as a mom (or dad) You just won't. No your child will not always obey in fact during the toddler age they are more likely to not obey. No you will not always feel gorgeous and put together worthy of IG or any other social media whose main purpose is to glorify this silly thing we call life. We are all in need of Grace at times ... Most of the time.
Long after all the perfect little white onsies and flower patterned receiving blankets started to lose thier baby smell and beautiful off white couch which I believed was a good choice (at the time) for raising a family has been soiled way beyond the magic of any steam cleaner or genius Pinterest regiment. You reach the revelations that "yeah this is a mess" I don't have the answers, I do believe that between myself my husband and God we will arrive at them though. I have days when I am crying on the floor. I have days where I am praising God for blessing me with such well behaved Angels. I have days when my almost Four year has me right up their with Cinderella and those are followed by days where I am akin to The Evil Step Mother. I have days where the family pictures will be IG worthy and days when my toddler biting her sister just doesn't seem appropriate for social sharing. I am learning though that this is a journey which will get messy and I am ok with that. Perfectly ok .It's how we grow, by admitting our weaknesses embracing or strengths and leaning on each other. I will love my kids more everyday its not because they fit into the perfect little packages I once imagined and it's not because it I am the perfect mother who has all the answers and removes all the stains every time it's because they are mine and we are allowed to go through this mess together and appreciate the beauty of it all :-)

~ Michelle

Why I am grateful that Motherhood is not "What I expected"

I wanted some quiet time to sit down and write this post, but instead I am sitting at my kitchen table. There is a sink full of dishes and dinner is half finished. I earn points for that right? My oldest daughter is going on the hour two of the nap that she clearly didn't need and the little one is crawling around under my feet looking for something to eat Just Kidding! (well maybe not)

Anyways I have had this post in my head for a long time. I had all intentions of writing it last night while I sipped a seeping hot cup of tea. I went to bed instead. I enjoy going to bed between the hours of 8 and 9 pm.. Judge me if you must. 

I always wanted to be a mother. Yes, I went through phases where I wanted to be a dancer, a teacher and a journalist at one point, but mother  always topped my list of future ambitions. I fell in love , got married and we had a child and then another. I had it all. I think this is a dream for many girls I can't speak for everyone though and realize many woman choose another path in life. The truth of the matter is I had  no idea what to expect. There is something ironic about being pregnant you are encouraged to rest, pamper yourself and  eat whatever you want "Take care of mama and baby will be just fine" Now when the baby actually gets here that is when things get real. I wanted to believe that I knew what to expect. The reality of the matter is I had no clue. I really didn't. I had ideas of how it would be , fantasies and images of horror burned in my mind. I assumed my experience would be something in between. 

I guess this is why it took me so long to write this post  because the minute I realized that I was grossly under prepared for this "new" role in my life I began to feel "inadequate" and a bit of a failure. I didn't realize until recently that with all of the challenges and surprises of being a Mom comes a crazy amount of Grace. You will mess up you will do things that you said you would never do and there is Grace through it all. 

Which leads me to my next point. It's a confession. If I knew exactly what this job was going to entail would I have willingly signed up? The answer would be "probably not". But that is the beauty of God and the way he created our lives. Motherhood is a calling it's a call to be greater than we believe we can be. It's a call for sacrifice It's a call to love, to nurture, to protect, to teach among so many other requirements. It's not something simple that can be wrapped up in a pretty little package. Great things never are. We serve a God who is amazing, He is great, He is powerful and righteous. He calls us to be all of these things. Will we fail. Absolutely! , But he is here for us. To guide us, to give  us the strength to go on even when it seems we have nothing left. He designed this life to be "unexpected" Raw, filled with ups and downs, Happy surprises and things that will rock us to the core. Motherhood is a lesson in all  of this. This is why I am so grateful that I didn't know what I was "signing up for" when I was Called to be a mother. I would not have it any other way. Its much more difficult, wonderful, messy, beautiful, painful, joyful and Amazing than my human mind is capable of imagining, believing or comprehending. I only wish I realized this sooner. 

Tough Days.

We all have days where we just feel like we are hanging by a string. I didn't get much sleep last night. I was probably my fault. I drank coffee too close to bedtime. I watched 19 Kids and Counting till Gasp 10 pm! Then I was lying in bed trying to fall asleep and just as I was drifting off the baby woke up. Our 1 year old doesn't sleep through the night. It is what it is. We are not doing any kind of sleep training right now. Feeding her usually settles her right back down. Sometimes I have a hard time falling asleep though after I get back down. Needless to say today has been a tough day. There are going to be tough days as a mom. I am three years into this gig and I learned that pretty quickly. I had help the past couple of days between the holiday weekend and my oldest getting sick. Thank God for husband. You might ask what the point of this post is. Its not to be negative or bash being a mom. Its simply to say that whether or not your sahm or work full time its ok to have a tough day. I read this once and really liked it. Its a bad day , Not a bad life. Words of wisdom. I also like this one "Not everyday is Good but there is something good in Everyday!" Amen to that. I don't think there are truer words. I love being a mom. Even on the tough days. I find something to make me smile. Its usually my girls. Even when we are all having "One of those days" I look at them and smile because even the worst day with them is better just because they are here with me :-)

Good Bye Facebook!

Yesterday I took the plunge. I suspended my facebook account. I was spending far to much time on fb. Its consuming my every waking moment. My breaks from other household duties would include logging onto facebook. I was wound tightly enough and then seeing something on fb would just push me a little more over the edge it wasn't pretty. At first I thought maybe I just remove some of the people from my friends list that I didn't regularly communicate with then I woke up yesterday morning and decided that FB was getting in the way of more important things. Primarily my relationship with God and also my relationship with Chris and my kiddos. I want to be present as a wife and a mother. Spending so much time on fb was making that very difficult. I decided it was time for a change. So I decided no more facebook right now. For now I will communicate via text, E-mail and phone calls... PHONE CALLS are actually the closet thing we get to a face to face meeting in todays society. Its pretty sad. I have also decided that I will make use of the beautiful camera that Chris got me for my 30th Birthday and take lots of pictures of the girls. High qaulity pictures which I will print out so we have them for years to come. I am working on becoming more intentional in my life. Actually thinking hard about how I spend my time. Time is precious. I figure even if I blog weekly that is progress. So right now I am seeing how this goes. Day 1 was actually pretty good. I spent time reading the bible. Cleaning the house. Talking to my mom on the phone and playing with the girls. Stay tuned for more posts and updates on everything going in the Moeck household :-)

Starting over

I am not even going to attempt to fill everyone in on the past 6 or 7 months! Basically just really busy taking care of two little ones and watching them grow before my very eyes. Instead I will post some recent pictures of what has been going on around here :-) I am vowing right here and right now to be better about keeping this blog updated. I really enjoy writing and keeping track of everything going on in our family so I am going to make more of a conscious effort to Blog!

Thank Heaven for Little Girls!

Well I am three months into my gig as a mom of two little girls and all I can say is.. I love it. I love waking up to their sweet little faces every morning. I love dressing them up. I love it all! Yes, it does have challenges , but I try so hard to remember that God has blessed us big and if I take a little time to take it all in I realize just how wonderful my life is :-)

Our Newest Addition

Little Miss Hadley Elizabeth was welcomed into the world three days after her due date on August 18th, 2013 at 7:54 pm. :-) She weighed 8 lbs and 2 ounces and was 20 1/2 inches. 

 Minutes after birth 

 Sister love 

She has only been here 5 short weeks and it feels like she was always part of us.